Heart breaks

Each and any person, who has ever been in love, would have gone through this aspect of the life….Heart-Breaks…

For one day you are high, filled to the brim with love, with a sense of conquering the world with your blithe attitude and the next day it’s the very same world that crashes down when love exits. What hits you following that, can’t be fathomed by a naïve person. 

The loss of your first love, be at age you are of, is always heart wrenching. Loss of your subsequent loves...second or third time following by that…well that is bit more adjustable, as you do get to know yourself better now. Your first break-up had now prepared you, you are able to handle it with bit more poise; and yes you now even are able to address these raw emotions post break ups much better; compared to the first time. 

Still, having said that, the sense of despair and desolation with each one of those losses, it does render you vulnerable. Truly speaking the tornado of emotions which it brings forth is too overwhelming. To chain this whirlwind under your command and gain control back of your life in your own hands is a humongous task. To gather the broken pieces of yourself which has scattered all over is not an easy job. The daunting task that lies ahead is to get over the pain. There are various solutions which can be put forth; talk to your closest friends or parents, cry your heart out and wash it all off, try not to bring the bad memories but remember the beautiful moments and hold no grudges, engage yourself in new endeavors, and so forth.

But the main issue that I want to talk about is to give yourself time to grieve.  The process of grief is nothing less than cleansing your mind, body and soul. When something as profound as love is lost, which did hold a very significant space in your life….you cannot think to shrug it off as a passé; it does not work that way. If you think that the very next day of your life is going to be back on track with the same vigor or you plan to meet new people with the intention of getting into relationship… Man you are going to be doomed. You will not only hit another road block, but may even loose a potentially good partner. Why? The answer lies in your emotional baggage which you forgot to leave behind in your past. The path of grieving does take care of that. The clutter of the past relationship has to be dealt with first. Once you have cleaned your slate only then you can think of moving on in your life. I say this again, to remind myself and others who find themselves in this very same situation, give yourself time. Be gentle to yourself, do not blame anyone or anything for this footing that you are in. Do not rush. You shall persevere eventually. 

Finally- for those who were blessed in having their love turned out to be their soul mates, remember you are truly blessed.